We say “Yes” to things we wish we didn’t. It is often the normal “Yes” we give. But it doesn’t have to be…
Why not say “No” politely instead of a begrudged “Yes”?
Firstly, a begrudged “Yes” graces no one. Secondly, it is felt by everyone involved so the activity is under a gray cloud. DailyOM had a small essay about ‘Finding Freedom in No’ that dives into the challenge saying “No” brings up inside us. Tip: Saying “Yes” to something that interests, brings enjoyment to all involved.
Why not this year say yes to something good?
During our Dreams & Goals webinar at the end of the year, we talked about saying “Yes” and “No” to people, goals, and activities. We also talked of all the things we need to change. Why we felt change had to be saying “No or a begrudged Yes’, to something we desire like losing 10 pounds. An example being losing weight – we could say “Yes” to walking with a friend instead of a DVD (census felt a begrudged yes to that over the other). Therefore, why not add good? We each came up with ideas that bring the good we wanted this year, by saying “Yes” to the items that would bring the wish we desired. Tip: Saying “Yes” to something that excites, brings anticipation for the future.
What is an idea worthy of saying yes?
- Is there something you’ve wanted to do?
- Or a place you’ve always dreamed of going to?
- Someone who you’ve been wanting to see in concert or at a lecture?
- Are you ready to pay attention to the voice inside?
- Or do you need to shake up the norm?
I will share that years ago I made a New Year’s resolution, “To say yes, to an experience that I would normally say No to”. My friend jumped on that!! So fast, my head spun and I stuttered. Lol. I ended up at a country concert bash – if you don’t know what that is, it is an all day concert in a field with multiple bands. What started out as a “Yes” to a girls day ended up with the daughters, niece and parents. We danced, we sang, and we got autographs (that my niece still talks about). Basically, an unforgettable family event that wouldn’t have happened without a “Yes”. I am so happy I went! And I have the cowboy hat to prove it. Will I go again? Probably not. But that is okay, the memories are cherished. Tip: Saying “Yes” to an-out-of-your-normal-experience, brings wonderful memories for years to come.
January started our Book Club. Starting this CCL Book Club has been a wonderful “Yes” when I finally paid attention to my inner voice. Our first book was The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. I was delighted with our chats. Personally, I cannot wait for next month’s chat. Meanwhile, the ideas and opinions shared about saying “Yes” were wonderful and intriguing. If you haven’t read it, I suggest you may want to add it to your reading or Audible list for enjoyment. Tip: Saying “Yes” to your inner voice can lead to new ideas and enjoyable friendships.
The Way to Say Yes
Let’s end where we began. Yet changing the way of “Yes”. We say “Yes” to things we wish to bring into our lives. And make this the normal “Yes” we give. Because it can be…
Please share in the comments below your ideas on saying “Yes”… I look forward to reading them.
PS ~ Our February book is Sage Living by Anne Sage. The subtitle is, “Decorate for the Life You Want”. I love this!! This is my philosophy also. I am looking forward to hearing what speaks to us and maybe the “Yeses” will say to our home design at Book Club. This is a free group. Please join us. I am asking you to register so you can get the Zoom link and my weekly newsletter. I look forward to seeing you February 22nd @ 6:30pm EST and/or February 27th @ 3:00pm EST.
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